diff --git a/src/chat_events.hpp b/src/chat_events.hpp
index 3479e0ff65e..d92ee6be1c2 100644
--- a/src/chat_events.hpp
+++ b/src/chat_events.hpp
@@ -43,7 +43,6 @@ protected:
 
 	virtual void send_whisper(const std::string& receiver, const std::string& message);
 
-
 	virtual void add_whisper_sent(const std::string& receiver, const std::string& message);
 
 	virtual void add_whisper_received(const std::string& sender, const std::string& message);
@@ -55,6 +54,12 @@ protected:
 	virtual void add_chat_room_message_received(const std::string& room,
 		const std::string& speaker, const std::string& message);
 
+	/**
+	 * Called when a processed command results in a relation (friend/ignore) change
+	 * for a user whose name is passed as the 'name' arg
+	 */
+	virtual void user_relation_changed(const std::string& name);
+
 	void change_logging(const std::string& data);
 
 	friend class chat_command_handler;
diff --git a/src/gui/dialogs/lobby_main.cpp b/src/gui/dialogs/lobby_main.cpp
index 7b834a8d8b0..e90b171939c 100644
--- a/src/gui/dialogs/lobby_main.cpp
+++ b/src/gui/dialogs/lobby_main.cpp
@@ -124,6 +124,11 @@ void tlobby_main::send_chat_message(const std::string& message, bool /*allies_on
 	network::send_data(data, 0, true);
 }
 
+void tlobby_main::user_relation_changed(const std::string& /*name*/)
+{
+	player_list_dirty_ = true;
+}
+
 void tlobby_main::add_chat_message(const time_t& /*time*/, const std::string& speaker,
 	int /*side*/, const std::string& message, events::chat_handler::MESSAGE_TYPE /*type*/)
 {
@@ -247,7 +252,7 @@ tlobby_main::tlobby_main(const config& game_config, lobby_info& info)
 , chat_input_(NULL), window_(NULL)
 , lobby_info_(info), preferences_callback_(NULL)
 , open_windows_(), active_window_(0), selected_game_id_()
-, player_list_()
+, player_list_(), player_list_dirty_(false)
 {
 }
 
@@ -369,7 +374,10 @@ void tlobby_main::update_gamelist()
 		}
 	}
 	update_selected_game();
+}
 
+void tlobby_main::update_playerlist()
+{
 	lobby_info_.update_user_statuses(selected_game_id_, active_window_room());
 	lobby_info_.sort_users(player_list_.sort_by_name->get_value(), player_list_.sort_by_relation->get_value());
 
@@ -452,6 +460,7 @@ void tlobby_main::update_gamelist()
 	player_list_.other_games.auto_hide();
 
 	window_->invalidate_layout();
+	player_list_dirty_ = false;
 }
 
 void tlobby_main::update_selected_game()
@@ -468,6 +477,7 @@ void tlobby_main::update_selected_game()
 	}
 	window_->get_widget<tbutton>("observe_global", false).set_active(can_observe);
 	window_->get_widget<tbutton>("join_global", false).set_active(can_join);
+	update_playerlist();
 }
 
 void tlobby_main::pre_show(CVideo& /*video*/, twindow& window)
@@ -683,7 +693,7 @@ void tlobby_main::active_window_changed()
 				<< header.label() << " vs " << t.name << "\n";
 		}
 	}
-	window_->invalidate_layout();
+	update_playerlist();
 }
 
 
@@ -924,6 +934,7 @@ void tlobby_main::send_message_button_callback(gui2::twindow &/*window*/)
 		//      opened window, so e.g. /ignore in a whisper session ignores
 		//      the other party without having to specify it's nick.
 		chat_handler::do_speak(input);
+		if (player_list_dirty_) update_gamelist();
 	} else {
 		config msg;
 		send_message_to_active_window(input);
@@ -1060,6 +1071,7 @@ void tlobby_main::user_dialog_callback(user_info* info)
 		tlobby_chat_window* t = whisper_window_open(info->name, true);
 		switch_to_window(t);
 	}
+	update_gamelist();
 }
 
 } // namespace gui2
diff --git a/src/gui/dialogs/lobby_main.hpp b/src/gui/dialogs/lobby_main.hpp
index 0a955367fe2..0c7afb987c6 100644
--- a/src/gui/dialogs/lobby_main.hpp
+++ b/src/gui/dialogs/lobby_main.hpp
@@ -83,6 +83,8 @@ public:
 
 	void update_gamelist();
 
+	void update_playerlist();
+
 	enum legacy_result { QUIT, JOIN, OBSERVE, CREATE, PREFERENCES };
 
 	legacy_result get_legacy_result() const { return legacy_result_; }
@@ -105,6 +107,8 @@ protected:
 	/** inherited form chat_handler */
 	virtual void send_chat_message(const std::string& message, bool /*allies_only*/);
 
+	virtual void user_relation_changed(const std::string& name);
+
 	/** inherited form chat_handler */
 	virtual void add_chat_message(const time_t& time, const std::string& speaker,
 		int side, const std::string& message,
@@ -341,6 +345,8 @@ private:
 	int selected_game_id_;
 
 	tplayer_list player_list_;
+
+	bool player_list_dirty_;
 };
 
 } // namespace gui2
diff --git a/src/lobby_data.cpp b/src/lobby_data.cpp
index ce05616160b..497fef5879f 100644
--- a/src/lobby_data.cpp
+++ b/src/lobby_data.cpp
@@ -108,15 +108,6 @@ user_info::user_info(const config& c)
 	, registered(utils::string_bool(c["registered"]))
 	, observing(c["status"] == "observing")
 {
-	if (name == preferences::login()) {
-		relation = ME;
-	} else if (preferences::is_ignored(name)) {
-		relation = IGNORED;
-	} else if (preferences::is_friend(name)) {
-		relation = FRIEND;
-	} else {
-		relation = NEUTRAL;
-	}
 }
 
 void user_info::update_state(int selected_game_id, const room_info* current_room /*= NULL*/)
@@ -134,6 +125,15 @@ void user_info::update_state(int selected_game_id, const room_info* current_room
 			state = LOBBY;
 		}
 	}
+	if (name == preferences::login()) {
+		relation = ME;
+	} else if (preferences::is_ignored(name)) {
+		relation = IGNORED;
+	} else if (preferences::is_friend(name)) {
+		relation = FRIEND;
+	} else {
+		relation = NEUTRAL;
+	}
 }
 
 
diff --git a/src/menu_events.cpp b/src/menu_events.cpp
index ee364f020b4..e34339e1174 100644
--- a/src/menu_events.cpp
+++ b/src/menu_events.cpp
@@ -2439,6 +2439,10 @@ private:
 		cch.dispatch(cmd);
 	}
 
+	void chat_handler::user_relation_changed(const std::string& name)
+	{
+	}
+
 	void chat_handler::send_whisper(const std::string& receiver, const std::string& message)
 	{
 		config cwhisper, data;
@@ -2546,6 +2550,7 @@ private:
 			for(int i = 1; !get_arg(i).empty(); i++){
 				if (preferences::add_ignore(get_arg(i))) {
 					print("ignore",  _("Added to ignore list: ") + get_arg(i));
+					chat_handler_.user_relation_changed(get_arg(i));
 				} else {
 					command_failed(_("Invalid username: ") + get_arg(i));
 				}
@@ -2561,6 +2566,7 @@ private:
 		} else {
 			for(int i = 1;!get_arg(i).empty();i++){
 				if (preferences::add_friend(get_arg(i))) {
+					chat_handler_.user_relation_changed(get_arg(i));
 					print("friend",  _("Added to friends list: ") + get_arg(i));
 				} else {
 					command_failed(_("Invalid username: ") + get_arg(i));
@@ -2574,6 +2580,7 @@ private:
 		for(int i = 1;!get_arg(i).empty();i++){
 			preferences::remove_friend(get_arg(i));
 			preferences::remove_ignore(get_arg(i));
+			chat_handler_.user_relation_changed(get_arg(i));
 			print("list", _("Removed from list: ") + get_arg(i));
 		}
 	}